Hanging Tough During
I was starting to share some of thoughts with you on the topic of how to
take tough times in your stride I suddenly remembered a cartoon I saw long
time ago. It was that of David and Goliath where, David sees Goliath
tinier than him though the picture of Goliath is hundred times magnified,
as printed on the cartoon book. The caption just under the cartoon read
very simple. It said: It's all in the perspective! The cartoon not only
set me thinking but it threw open some very closed doors in my mind.
Whenever I passed through any tough time, or had any negative experience I
did feel let down, or rejected or even demeaned. But as I thought more and
went deeper into every emotion that passed through me and the details of
what led to the situation which I considered 'tough' it brought be back to
the same platform where I started. I started to view things differently
and people with more compassion and forgiveness and soon I did not feel so
bad after all.
situation which we come across in life has several ways to be looked at
and judged. The problem is usually we are stuck with only one point of
view. We cease to be rational any more simply because we consider
ourselves defeated, demeaned or a failure. A tough time results in our
losing mental composure as well as loss of self confidence and esteem. In
short, we have created the cloud ourselves and have decided to get blinded
by our own judgment and analysis. Stop for a moment and re-think. Walk
through the situations which have led to the 'tough' time or run through
the people who have made your life miserable, be it your boss, spouse or
whatever. Be as pragmatic and unbiased as you can when you are looking
within for answers. Let your thoughts flow in this manner:
How did it all begin?
Who are the main people responsible for
creating this tough situation in my life?
What are their stakes in creating such
an adverse situation?
Was I in any way responsible in stepping
on their toes at any time?
Was I also vindictive in my action
towards them, ever?
Can I put myself in their shoes and view
the situation the way they are doing?
you can do this self analysis pragmatically and taking yourself out of the
'tough' situation, you would be surprised how many truths, many unpleasant
perhaps, would emerge. I have always believed that if I know the problem
or the root of the problem, then I also have the solution.
times are nothing new to us. All of us go through it many times over in
our lives. Many such tough times happen as part of the societal growth or
adverse situations which are beyond our control. Examples could be loss of
job due to downsizing, lack of money due to inflation, debts or ill health
in the family, loss of a dear one, and so on. Such situations are
explained in a number of Asian philosophies – the Chinese Yin Yang comes
to my mind first. Yin Yang is the ultimate truth about duality of life –
when there is day, there ought to night, grief and happiness, bad times
and good times and so on. The whole universe is a moving circle of the
good and the bad all built in as one whole – when you have bad times,
there is bound to be good times too. Incredible but true, we remember sad
times more than the good times but also have the capacity to instantly
forget the tough times when the sun rises again. We are blessed with this
supreme power of tiding over turbulent times and we move on. Not because
we can but we have to.
the take home message of how to tide over tough times could be summarized
Take the tough time and the good time
both in your stride.
Remember nothing is permanent in life,
not even the tough times that you are going through.
The world also has beautiful people,
splendid environment and many talents within you which, if tapped properly
can make ride over these issues with grace and fortitude.
It is wise not to come to any judgment
about people who you believe are behind giving you this tough time. If
looking from their perspective does not help heal your mind – move on and
soon they would become history.
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