How to Become an
Debating as a vocation, in my school was a big thing. Students who were
good in this segment of the school curriculum were praised, rewarded and
those were not too adept at it, were ignored. Unfortunately I belonged to
the latter group and it would not be an understatement to say that I did
feel left out during those couple of years. Soon luck changed and a new
principal joined the school. What struck me as odd at that time was that
his main task, as he met the students gradually, was to handpick the
students who were shy, reticent and in other words, not front runners in
any particular vocation. He also noticed me and several others who were
left out of mainstream debating events and spent many hours with us since
our first meeting to explain various aspects of debating and how important
it is to become a public speaker. Winning he said, should not be the sole
aim in life, but participating is. These encouraging words, heard at a
tender age, took me miles ahead in later life, as I not only conquered
stage fright, but became an avid and admired presenter in my professional
sphere. I gained self-confidence, felt great about my self and what is
important, I started to believe that I can do anything, if I sincerely
wanted to do it. Not just gaining in my personal and professional life,
this early experience taught me the importance of Ďencouragementí and what
tremendous impact I can make in some oneís life, if I became a good
of the first things which an encourager can achieve is he can build and
sustain a good team. Employees in an organization would hardly think of
switching jobs if they get a superior who constantly nudges them to move
forward with his encouraging words, even in the face of adversity. A
school teacher can restore discipline and put his wayward students back on
track with only a few regular words of encouragement. Here are some tips
to become a good encourager where you not only bring happiness and
motivate others, but also become a better boss, partner, friend,
co-worker, or whichever roles you play in your life. a smile, a pat on the
back, a tip or some nice words can take you miles in achieving not just
your personal goals but help in motivating various people who cross your
patch in life. Do you remember that glee on the car mechanicís face, when
you praised his talent in front of the owner of the car workshop, who was
his boss? Having said this far about the importance of becoming an
encourager, here are some tips to get you started:
Notice the strengths in people rather than their weaknesses.
Make it a habit to pass a positive
comment about some oneís abilities. This helps ion increasing
Never reprimand your junior in front of
others. On the same side, never reward anyone in private.
Try and personalize your encouragement.
For instance, tell or write to some personally that you believe in his
capability and have put a lot of trust in his talent and expertise. Any
encouraging statement goes waste if the person who it is meant for, gets
to hear of it last.
Be specific in your encouragement.
Timeliness, discipline, courage, quantity of output, or which ever reason
that you are encouraging him for, must be clear to the recipient.
Be encouraging even when things are
going not the way it was planned. A smiling and cheerful deportment goes a
long way in encouraging your team or family to walk that extra mile to
achieve their goals and ambitions.
To be an encouraging parent, take your
children for what they are without being critical. Respect them as
responsible adults and they would respect you too. Constant bickering
about their failures, that also in front of others would take you far away
from being encouraging parents. Remember to praise or thank them for even
the smallest deed and you would have happy children in the family.
must realize the importance of being an encourager in which ever role you
play in life. Be it parent, superior, colleague, supervisor, field worker
or whatever role you are playing at this instant, needs encouragement and
which you must provide to others to get the best actions from others.
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